Like calls to like, or so the old proverb says. She, no doubt, has been unlucky in love because of the choices she’s made. She’s often attracted to the bad boy who lives on the edge and has had a few run-ins with the law.
9. She Never Learns from Her Mistakes
She’s the kind that touched the stove even when her mama told her not to. She does the same things over and over because she never seems to learn anything from her mistakes. She will mess you up and make your life crazy, as you will forever be cleaning up her messes.
10. She Needs Lots of Attention
Being in a relationship with this woman, romantic or otherwise, can feel like a chore. She clings to you tighter than a cat in a thunderstorm. She needs your undivided attention 24×7, and she’s not afraid to monopolize your time.
Be careful when dealing with attention seekers, as they will create drama and situations to be in your life. She’s probably lived in so much drama in her life that she doesn’t know how to live without it.
11. She’s Always Trying to Fix Things
It may drive you crazy, but she tries to fix everyone around her. But, again, you must realize that her lifestyle of chaos has created an atmosphere where she constantly feels compelled to make changes. As a result, she may be overly critical and try to make you change things about you that don’t suit her.
12. She’s Regularly Playing the Victim
Have you noticed that she always plays the victim? It doesn’t matter what happens to her or who’s on the other side; she is always guilt-free in the matter. She’s played the victim so well that she’s even begun to believe it herself.
This manipulative tactic has become a part of her identity. You may feel like you need to be her savior, but don’t get sucked into the drama. You can listen, but you need to set firm boundaries on how far you will go with her and her constant problems.
13. She’s Easily Jealous
Having friends or being in a relationship with someone other than her is problematic. She is extremely jealous of your other friends or even a lover. She wants to be the center of your world, and she doesn’t take too lightly to other people interrupting your time with her.
According to the National Library of Medicine, most domestic violence cases start because of jealousy. Don’t think just because she’s a woman that she won’t turn violent if she feels her position is threatened.
14. She Micromanages Your Life
You feel like your life is not your own when she is around. She micromanages every aspect of your day, and she is willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that she knows your every move. You must realize that she’s controlling, but the power issues stem from her life being out of control.
Toxic women aren’t born that way, but they tend to evolve after years of blows to their psyche that change them. According to Medical News Today, people who have personality disorders tend to be controlling, as well as those who have been victims of abuse. So, if they want to know where you are at every minute, scan your phone and other online devices looking for dirt on you, or try to control your access to your family, then you should run.
15. She’s Manipulative
Men don’t usually cry crocodile tears quite as well as a female. She’s learned how to use her tears to manipulate you into what she wants. For instance, if you say you’re not going to the movies and watching something she wants to see, her tears may show up to try to manipulate you into going anyway.
She can play the guilt card better than anyone you know, and if she doesn’t get her way, then look out!
Everyone has things in their life that have happened to mold and shape them into the person they are today. However, the toxic woman has been through some stuff that has negatively altered her. She may be a victim of abuse or has grown up in a dysfunctional home where she was neglected, and her needs didn’t matter.
Trying to have any relationship with her is going to be difficult. Her needs will always overshadow yours, and she will never see what she does to you as wrong. Whether your lovers or just friends, the toxic woman can mess you up, so be careful when getting involved.